Is he married? If so his family could have taken a space available flight through the Air Force, it costs nothing and he could have came home on R&R from down range. i did that both times i was deployed from Europe, and typically when soldiers go on leave before and after a deployment soldiers typically go home. I understand where you're coming from but being a family is a two way street and if he's angry at you its his own damned fault for not communicating with you. and if he gives you some BS about how it was hard to communicate with you while over seas that's BS as well. each forward operating base, combat outpost, and joint service base has sapware, MWR phones with AT&T phones, as well as computers with internet. even his company CP would have had a computer setup for MWR internet. and he would have had time. being a soft skill MOS (i'm assuming since he went to basic in Jackson) he would have had enough time. the military pushes and enforces soldiers to communicate with family. I think your son is just being unreasonable. like any relationship you have to work at it from both ends and it sounds like he just didn't try hard enough. i'm sorry he's being that way. i'm sure you spent many night worrying your a$$ off about him.
Thank you very much for your information.
I agree he has not been very communicative. We did speak more when he was away, via email and chats, but that was it. He is not married. He lives with his mom. Many a time he came home on leave, and just didn't let me know.
This past week I began again, after several months since the last time I tried and failed to get together. This stime, I tried his mother via phone. She said he never calls her back either, but I didn't buy that much, they must see each other daily living in the same home.
So, after several calls and message later, I emailed his mom I was still failing, and said "Well, he just must not beinto his dad very much." That got this awful email back from him about how he never had a dad growing up, he got into computers in the Army after I turned him onto them when he was in high school (but he had no dAD), AND WHILE HE IS AWAY, i CAN BUY NEW CARS, A HOME, A BOAT, AND TRAVEL oopps..hate when you hit caps..to visit long lost family, but I can't go see him in Hawaii or Alaska.
What he does not know is I planned a big family get-together for him for when he got out with all that family I found. I planned a picnic that was going to be at Sherwood Island State Park, and had several of our relatives family waiting for the final date and times. We never got to it because he fails to call and talk to me. His mother even knew about it.
I really think something else is going on besides the story he gave about me traveling to HA & AK. Some have suggested delayed Stress Syndrome from his tours in Iraq.
I remember when he went to FT GOrdon after our week at the Hilton Head. I dropped him off and drove back to CT. I didn't hear from him for several weeks and called down there. I got his barracks, and left a message that he call his dad, becasue I hadn't heard from him and wondered if he was still alive (jokingly ofcourse). He got hell from his higher ups that time.
Anyway, thanks again for your reply. I'm praying he comes around better. He needs to get out and work. I have contacts.
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